Monday, December 31, 2012

I'll Be Back

We just returned from South Florida. There are many items of note from this short trip to close out 2012, but I promise I won't bore you with details of visiting my aging parents. They are getting old, with the aches and pains typical of living 90 years and are taking enough medication to keep Pfiser afloat.

Yesterday, on Dec. 30, 2012, a guy 5 rows back from us on our American Airlines 777 had 2 seizures, which set the flight crew and 2 nurses that happened to be on board in motion, and eventually ended with him being escorted off the plane on foot by LAX EMT's. He lives to enjoy Obamacare so he can get more Meds too.

The morning had started with the TSA at Miami International having only one human scanner operating at 7 AM on Sunday, during what has to be one of the busiest days travel days of the year. As human cattle, we shuffled our feet, inching forward, internalizing our frustration with this tedious, incompetent process of protecting us from ..... ???

You don't dare complain, or point out the poor management by TSA, like you would if it were your local Home Depot operating one check out line. Open your mouth at a  Federal security check point and they will pull you out of line, sit you in a tiny room, and make sure you miss your flight.

One of the highlights of our 4 days was a trip to the Pompano Beach Indoor Bazaar with my Mom. We were surprised to find the Minnetonka moccasins I wanted. I had been researching this purchase for weeks at home, shocked at not being able to locate a discount wholesaler on-line, including Amazon, Ebay or even a Chinese knock-off, but with my free $20 in "Bazaar Bucks", I gotta "Shmata-Row" discount. Elley got a pair of leg hugging, Brazilian faux jeans, and we even found my Mom her jug of body wash. We had hot pastrami, gyros, cole slaw, dill pickles and knish, amongst the sounds of all-so-familiar jewish folk. We were not in Kansas (i.e. San Diego) anymore.

On our last night, we headed down to the Cavalier Hotel on Ocean Dr. in South Beach. Elley loved the sand dunes, white beach, and turquoise water. We strolled around, admiring the Art Deco architecture, renovated and restored since my youth. But we were disappointed that the beat was mostly disco fusion and the "come-on" sales pitch for happy hours and mega drinks was monotonous. It is a tourist trap and most of the people are mid-western, t-shirt clad gawkers, with no intention of indulging in the local latin culture. We didn't find Samba, discovering from the cab driver at 6:30 AM the next morning that "Little Brazil" was back up in Pompano Beach right near the Bazaar.

OY!  Who Knew!

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

The Cat in the Hat

I have to wear a hat when I am outside in the sun. I have a hat collection, since I have been bald since my 20's. My bald head, pre-cancerous cells there upon dictate it. I wouldn't be in this predicament if we knew back then what we know now about the danger of UV's.

Trying on new hats has been a metaphor during my life, as I have moved through my maze, reinventing myself at every turn.  And, my new book is not accidentally titled: Uncle XOQ: Try on New Hats.  There is  a good story about how that came to be, but that is for another day.

So why "The Cat in the Hat" and the previous Post about Lola and her not knowing about me being a cat. Here is the story:

At work at HD, one of my nicknames is now Dr. Seuss. One day, a fellow employee, Jewish friend coincidentally named Kat, and I were discussing my new book. She wanted to know more and asked if my books were anything like Dr. Seuss books. I said I'd like them to be, but the content is more serious and the illustrations less Alien.

Somehow the conversation turned to my saying that if Jesus lived to today, maybe writing kids books, or at least teaching kids important lessons. He might even have used his carpentry background, like I did, to end up working at HD in Oceanside. We kidded that since we have a large Mexican-American population here his name would have been pronounced "Hay-Seuss."

OK, this sounds very convoluted, but it might help knowing that Kat and I are 2 of the few Jews working at HD in O'side. We frequently chat about the local conservative, Christian, marine folks and how they think so differently than us. And how funny it would be if in there midst they new that I, the Jewish boy Robby from NY, was writing children's books and might be a bit like "Hay-Seuss" would have been. So at that moment, Kat gave me the nickname "Dr Seuss" and she wrote it on my orange apron.

So here is how this all ties together. This Cat (me) always trying on different hats and working at HD was nicknamed by this interesting woman Kat at HD, Dr. Seuss, who wrote "The Cat in the Hat." And even more amazingly and coincidentally, Ancient Egyptians worshipped cats and Lola is an Egyptian Monkey Tailed Terrier.

Let it Be




Monday, December 24, 2012

Ancient Egyptians Used to Worship Cats, You Know

I never was a cat person, preferring man's best friend. Over the past 6 months, I have gotten to know a different kind of dog. Her name is Lola (if you are over 50, you immediately start singing: "she was a showgirl.") 

If you have looked at my book website, you might remember her as The Dawgy Lama. But this is not about her alter ego, it is simply about her being a dog.

Why is this significant? We all have alter egos. We choose to reside in them when hiding, working, or if needed, when spending time with family during the Holidays. But Lola doesn't ever choose to be anything but herself.

She wants to do what she wants to do, when she wants to do it: eat, go outside to do her business, get some exercise, snuggle up and get some petting time, or simply find the softest spot for sleeping. It's not complicated and often it's entertaining. I have always envied this behavior and marveled at the grip dogs have on their owners. It's a dog's life.

How is your alter ego? Have you changed it during your lifetime? Does it have a name? When do you escape to be inside that altered-ness? My first kids book is about "trying on new hats" in order to find you voice and figure out who you really want to be. But your alter ego is different. 

This is a part of you that you find or develop to become a better salesperson or to be a better grown-up child to an elder parent. It is a way to get over stage fright if you are an entertainer or to simply put on a "mask" to survive loss, change, pain, or heartache. 

Wait, we just got back from Lola's daily 4:00 walk and I remembered Lola is actually a black lab in a 12 lb. body. She's strong and strong-minded, likes big dogs, dislikes little dogs, is cool to strangers, but loving to those that have been accepted into her circle. I like Lola for all these reasons and she seems to like me. Good thing she doesn't know my alter ego is a cat. (Keep a look-out for my next Blog Post - Why am I Like a Cat?)



al·ter e·go

  [

awl-ter ee-goh]
noun
1.
a second self; a perfect substitute 
2.
an inseparable friend.
3.
another aspect of one's self.
Origin: 
1530–40;  < Latin  (Cicero), probably translation of Greek állos egṓ,héteros egṓ  another "I"





Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Here's Looking at You Kid

This quote doesn't actually refer to an off spring, but it certainly capsulizes how I'm feeling this morning. My 26 year old son Casey is sleeping on the air mattress in our living room and I am typing in the pre-dawn darkness at the foot of the bed. Today is the day he flies off to Seattle and officially moves away from San Diego.

It's been 8 years since we moved to this county in SoCal. I have been out east in the desert and then near the beach in north county. He has been south, in La Jolla and the city. It has been a parallel existence as he has completed college, his Master's, and his first career as an Autism Lab Coordinator and Autism Intervention Specialist. And oh by the way, he started a non-profit See Beneath, Inc. to develop educational materials for autistic children. Busy boy .....

During these years we've played golf a few times, celebrated some holidays, Super Bowls, and birthdays together, gone hiking and camping a couple of times, and there has been the occasional need for Dad to help out with his car. Generally it has been a comfort of proximity and an opportunity to watch a son unfold into a great guy with a big future.

Here's looking at you kid!


Sunday, December 9, 2012

The Stuff that Dreams are Made of

My book is now available to BUY for the Holidays; a great gift for all the kids in your life, all parents, teachers, grandparents ..... OK everyone should BUY my book. By the way these BUY words are active links that will jump you right to the bookstore to place your order.

So much for the unabashed marketing. Seriously, this is a new chapter in my life. I have managed to distill some of my basic philosophies into a 12 page book starring my alter ego Uncle XOQ (pronounced ZOK - like Spock).

About 5-6 years ago I was working at EXPO in Laguna Niguel and met another Dept. Supervisor during my first week. That would be Zoey Stevens. He is the illustrator of my first book and I forever indebted to him for making my characters come to life.

But more importantly, Zoey is my inspiration. Not only because I love his paintings and the messages he conveys through his art, but because he is the one that opened the door to the bird cage I was stuck in by simply saying: "you are creative, you are a writer ..... so just write." Uncle XOQ couldn't have said it any better.

Have a great and safe Holiday season and may the XOQ be with you!


Friday, December 7, 2012

We Rob Banks!

I don't really rob banks, but in your early 60's figuring out how to make more cash and planning for the next 5 years is a challenge. I never was a planner, so now I am one of the masses of Baby Boomers realizing I could have set myself up pretty good if I had:

1. Married only once
2. Never sold a house
3. Never sold a stock
4. Never left my first career as a teacher.
5. Paid 5% each check into my pension account

Coulda-Shoulda-Woulda!

The good news is I have a modest lifestyle, have company medical insurance, paid ten years into social security, haven't fallen into credit card debt, don't have a taste for toys, traveled a bit when I was younger, and my bucket list is short and affordable.

If I had to look for a job today it would be stressful. My resume is a hodge-podge of interesting, but short-term work/learning experiences in a variety of fields. My skill set is huge, my education top-notch, but I have no corporate background (not that a corporation would hire a 61 year old bald guy for a job as Program Director, Project Manager, Executive Assistant or whatever.)

I wouldn't take a sales job, bartender hours are too late into the evening, cold calling is not my thing, and even though I still have my CA Real estate license, the thought of sitting hours at open houses for other agents or taking shifts in an office waiting for walk-ins is mind numbing. And did I mention that "phone-mining" for prospects has never been my thing!

So what would I do if John Q. Customer at Home Depot got under my skin one day and I just couldn't take it anymore. If I lost my cool, flew off the handle, told him to get a life and get over his f....ing issue with his malfunctioning toilet handle, and I got fired ...... what kind of job would I look/pray for?

I'd probably comb Craigslist for non-profit admin jobs, sales coaching jobs at Garage Door companies (I actually turned one of those down when I first arrived in Oceanside), or really take a flyer and invest all my time and thousands of dollars of 0% credit card money in my children's book series "Uncle XOQ."

Maybe robbing a bank once would tide me over.

BTW .... did you see the teen on You Tube who robbed the bank and bragged about it in a home video. Americans - you got to love their lack of intelligence.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Here's Looking at You Kid

My friend Sal Diliberto sent me an email last night asking if I planned on attending anymore once-a-month Poker nights. As part of my response this morning, I told him how much I look forward to more conversations with him, sharing stories about our unique journeys. 

The first intense conversation I remember having with a friend about "who we are", was in the Coach's locker room at Princeton Day School in 1973.  As a very naive, but wise beyond my years 21 year old, Alan Taback and I had a heart felt exchange after practice one late afternoon. The details are unimportant, but the fact that I long to have open, trusted, honorable dialogue like that, one on one with people, rushed toward me today.

I find myself remembering some of my great guy friends tonight, after observing my reaction to Sal's email. There are my dear friends Bruce and Don from the Northwest, Larry from Borrego Springs and Dave from Vista. Zoey, Austin, and Swami (my step-brother) and I think of Sal in that category. Then there is the next ring of circles revolving around my story:  Kayvon, Trevor, Richard, Mark, Jud, and Marvin.

One of the koolest realities of my life is that my son Casey is the MAN! I can relate to him about everything and I have always thought of him as a friend. 

So as the evening winds to a close, I raise a glass of the very best potato vodka I have found, chilled in the freezer and sipped from my San Felipe cactus glass: Here's to my good fortune in having met some of the finest men anywhere!



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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Living Jazz

Living Jazz was just awarded a $10,000 award from the National Endowment for the Arts for our MLK Musical Tribute on Jan. 19th at the Paramount!! This is significant here because the Executive Director of Living Jazz is my sister Stacey Hoffman.

Landing a grant of this magnitude is one of many incredible accomplishments and achievements Stacey has orchestrated during her 30 years running this organization. Her programs have inspired thousands of people to include music and dance in their lives.

My character Uncle XOQ's focus of helping kids of all ages find their "voice" is a direct result of being exposed to Stacey's world. Take a moment to look at her organization's website LivingJazz.org and you will begin to see the fruits of my sister's life's work.

Congratulations Stacey!  See you at the MLK Tribute on January 19, 2013 in Oakland.


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Monday, December 3, 2012

I'm Walking Here! I'm Walking Here!

Tic-Tac-Toe is the first game humans play that requires organized thinking. And it is interesting to observe that kids quickly learn the ways to block each other, while sacrificing their chance of success.  While placing X's and O's inside of 9 squares; winning quickly morphs into stopping your opponent.

What would happen if 35% of our representatives in Washington expressed their individuality and used another symbol like Q and placed it in a box? Simple right? It's not happening because they have become so narrow minded following the money that go them elected; not the people that elected them.

But I am headed to another conversation;  much more fun and fascinating then politics. Tip your head over to the right while looking at the word box and visualize it upside down. Write those three small letters on a napkin and turn it upside down. A new word for your to focus on today appears = xoq.

As we head towards 2013 (we'll talk about Dec 21, 2012 in another Post) everyone would benefit from out of the box thinking. Just like in nature's amazing metamorphosis of the moth to cocoon to butterfly, transform yourself, let go of assumptions, write your own script, find your Q !

"People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself.  But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates."  Thomas Szasz


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Sunday, December 2, 2012

Round up the Usual Suspects

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Jerry Harmon  is a former Mayor and council member in Escondido and a life long environmentalist. I met him at The Home Depot in South Oceanside a few years back when he began to remodel a home nearby. He is active in the Sierra Club, and serves on the boards of the League of Conservation Voters-San Diego, and  is a member of the Water Quality and the Reveal the Creek Committees.

Last night was his annual Holiday Party on Fire Mountain and he was, as always, a gracious host. There was lots of food, wine, and I had the opportunity to get to know some of his amazing friends. These are people who care about the environment, their community, and preserving the quality of life in North San Diego County.  My friends Dave and Pam Scarbrough were also there and I got caught up with Dave's first week at Precision Printers. And you should have seen how amazing Elley looked in her high leather boots!  Wow-zer!

I have, I want to, acknowledge that my desire to find a community I feel connected to, and people I enjoy at many levels, has happened in 2012 in Oceanside, CA. I thought it was impossible. I was wrong, and I am happy I was wrong.

Saturday, December 1, 2012

May the Force be with You


I am going to start all my posts with the following request: "I promise to make my Posts shorter, if you promise to scroll down to read older Posts you may have missed." 
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Elley and I had a most stimulating, although admittedly at times stressful, conversation last night at TGI Friday's. It carried over to our drive home and then into the later evening at our pad. Our topic of discussion is well described by this Post's title, "May the Force be with You" and can be attributed to the movie we saw last week "Life of Pi". 

Revealing my thoughts about God is easy for me, as I have been comfortable in this skin since my early 20's. I don't believe in any fable about God and have always described my spirituality as being akin to that of native peoples of North America. As Elley and I explored this beautiful movie's theme and message, I get hung up on any person's use of creating an imaginary story to help cope with life's miseries. 

Clearly Pi was traumatized by the events surrounding the sinking of the ship and the truth about what occurred on the lifeboat. The brutal loss of his Mother, after that ship had already sank taking the rest the rest of his family with it, eventually found him weaving a replacement tale about wild animals who ended up on the lifeboat with him. The relationship he conjured up with the fierce tiger became the hinge upon which survived.

My wish is that people would simply cope by being strong, being realists and moving forward with lesons learned from trauma. Placing your journey in the hands of imaginary beings and stories is an un-evolved way to go through this life.



Toto, I've got a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore

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Friday night is party night and tonight we celebrate my good friend Dave Scarbrough's departure from our local HD. Why are we celebrating his departure? We enjoyed getting to know him and working with him, and we are always elated when one of "our own" finds greener pastures!

Dave is a gifted photographer. He and I have inspired each other to pursue our art. It was remarkable to find such a talented guy at HD. This is one of his photos of Borrego Springs; during our Elephant Knees climb on the south side of Split Mountain. We have explored the Anza-Borrego Desert and Mountain State Park together on a number of camping/hiking trips. Such fun!

Last night, a small group of us met at TGI Fridays. Although the company was grand, the restaurant/bar leaves much to be desired. It is a tired, uninspiring place that used to be a Andersen's restaurant complete with windmill. But it was great to see part of the gang from the Pro Desk, sprinkled with some Tina and Patrick. Pam and Dave were all smiles as they embark on a great new chapter in their lives.

Pam is setting up her new studio and Dave has joined forces with many old printing industry friends. Another Beginning in their mid-50's!






Thursday, November 29, 2012

"E.T. phone home."

For Your Consideration:  Seeking a New Work Challenge

With a strong desire to continue to use my accumulated skills and wisdom, this is a preliminary application for a position with your company. My goal is to help you tap deeper into your human capital by realizing the full potential of your current staff and to assist you in expanding your company’s bottom line. 
Adaptability, reliability, initiative, and loyalty are part of human nature. With improved hiring assessments, and analysis of current employee’s strengths and challenges, we will create more vibrant outcomes. Asking people if they are willing to take responsibility for their daily actions, taps into all your natural resources. 

Let’s build new momentum by weaving a strong spirit of connection. This strengthens the foundation for your ladder to success and fuels each step of the climb with character, discipline, and honest effort.

Thus today's inspiration while I was cruising through my LinkedIn profile. I've still not figured out what the fascination is with Facebook, LinkedIn, an especially Twitter, but just the same I check in to my accounts at the first 2 and avoid looking at anything Twitter daily.

"How did the landscape shift so drastically that integrity and accountability are no longer the prime objective?" 


When we left here a year ago, I was convinced by 2 friends that I seemed angry in my Posts. So I took a break and wrote 2 children's books. Nothing could be further from "angry" than the words and wisdom of Uncle XOQ. (Please keep coming back for more about his adventures and a link to buying a book about Uncle XOQ for the kids in your life.)

Instead of complaining about, and even at times raging about, the incredible lack of intelligence and common sense of most Americans, I set about contributing to the education of people through the insights of Uncle XOQ. 

This morning I took a break from all that and conjured up a Resume from 2010. It included the opening above and I was moved at the same time to Post here. After all, you can't spend so much time thinking about the details of publishing your first book, geared toward life lessons for kids of all ages, without coming up against the truth that there has been an incredible shift in my lifetime.

"Why is the well-being of a nation secondary to the almighty dollar?"

I refer you to one of today's headlines about Harry Reid saying he just doesn't understand Boehner's brain. Me neither.

Welcome back to Planet Robby!

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Santa's Brother


SantasBro.com 

We all know Santa Claus is a friendly and jolly man. His family would be very proud of him, because he gives away so many presents to kids around the world. 

Did you know Santa has a brother and that when he was a kid he also had 2 sisters? Isn't it a wonder that he has lived so long? How did his home and workshop end up at the North Pole?
It has been almost 500 years since the American Santa was born. If we could ask him, he might not remember much about being a kid. What happened to his Mom and Dad and the rest of his family*?
It’s fun to think about Santa when he was younger and all the places he’s been. We know his reindeer take him anywhere he needs to go. But in the old days, before he got to the North Pole and started the reindeer ranch and met the Elves, and opened his toy shop, he probably walked a lot.
How come Santa has lived so long? Many people and cultures tell stories about Santa. There are lots of books about him. Some people think he lives with his wife, Mrs. Claus. They don’t seem to have any kids of their own. This is probably because they are so busy working with the Elves and making toys.
It’s possible that Santa’s mother came from Europe across the Atlantic Ocean with Christopher Columbus in 1492. This is "another beginning" of Santa Claus and his brother. Nobody really knows, but if it’s true or not, it’s still a wonderful folk tale. 
It starts with a smiling baby girl who had no Mommy, on-board the sailing ship "Santa Maria." The little girl was taken care of by a teenager named Katerina, who had blond hair and blue eyes. Columbus’ crew also watched over the baby while they survived storms, huge waves, and many days without any wind. They baby giggled through it all and it gave them hope and faith that everything would be OK.
The Nina, the Pinta, and the Santa Maria were running out of fresh water and food the morning they saw land. The crew believed the baby girl was their good luck charm who made it possible for them to survive. The ships anchored offshore and when they rowed to land, they were greeted by the native people.
In a ceremony on the first day, the baby girl was christened “Santa Maria,” to celebrate the crew's good fortune at finding land so far away from home. Katerina and the Santa Maria stayed in the native village with a family whose baby had recently died, so the Mommy could feed it breast milk.
Life among the native children was filled with laughter and adventure for little Santa Maria. She grew up to be a beautiful young girl and all the warriors were captivated by her fair skin and doe-like eyes. Some of the boys tried to kiss her when no one was looking. But Santa Maria was saving her first kiss for a a boy named Kachada. He was handsome and strong, and had blue eyes too.
Kachada’s father was the Chief of the native people and his Mother was Katerina. The Chief had lost his wife the same year the ships had arrived and Columbus thought Katerina would be a perfect mate for the Chief. This made the Chief very happy and in his good mood he showed Columbus where the fresh water was, told the tribesmen to show them how to dive for shell fish, and gave them corn seeds.
Santa Maria’s love for Kachada grew, and when they were teenagers, Santa Maria and Kachada were married in a native ceremony. They had a love for sailing and often went out on the Chief’s sailboat to enjoy the ocean.
Two years later, they left the tribe, with the blessing of the Chief, crossed a smaller sea to the west, and found a bigger land mass. They sailed up an inter-coastal waterway, eventually joining another group of explorers.
Santa Maria and Kachada traveled north and inland with this party to discover the “Fountain of Youth” in what is now Florida. Ponce De Leon was the Spanish explorer in charge of this expedition.
After they settled in the area known today as St. Petersburg, they had 4 children, 2 girls and 2 boys. The boys played, swam, and dove in the magical water, while the girls stayed home learning to gather berries, sew, and cook. One day, there was a mournful cry in the new settlement, when Kachada was bitten by a poisonous snake and died.
After their Dad died, the boys spend many days away from the village looking for game. Later they would be away for weeks at a time, trapping, hunting with bows and arrows, and learning the ways of the local natives and the traders in north Florida. 
They eventually told Santa Maria that they wanted to find the big inland river the native people and white men often talked about. Santa Maria's youngest daughter, Santa Isabel, stayed with her Mom to help her heal from a broken heart and to teach school. Santa Isabel eventually opened an orphanage and is remembered as a generous, saintly woman. 
Santa Maria's oldest daughter, the beautiful but spoiled Santa Barbara, had been pampered by her Father Kachada. After he died, she soon married a wealthy fisherman Peter. It is told that their descendants found oil in the Gulf and were very greedy.
The 2 brothers traveled west and walked hundreds of miles, looking for the mighty river. When they reached its banks, they built a small sailboat, the way their Father had taught them, and headed north. It was a dangerous time to have blue eyes in the wilderness, but because they were friendly and knowledgeable about hunting and trapping, the natives along the river were not afraid of them. It is said that one of the brothers was named Santa Claus. 
There are many myths and legends about these 2 men. It was thought that they had magical powers. Like most stories repeated over and over through time, what we know now is part fact, part fiction, and certainly fantastic. With the natural ease and smiles of care-free travelers, they left behind a legacy of kindness every place they went. 
Many American villages, Inns, bars, seaports, and songs tell stories about 2 young men, training wild horses, teaching children to speak English, caring for the sick, and helping with the harvest. They would give anything, including the shirt off their backs, to the poor, and they spread the gifts of laughter and wisdom, and shared all the treasures they accumulated.
At some unknown point in their lives, the 2 men decided it was time to go forward alone. It is probably because Santa Claus liked the colder, rugged winters and wanted to explore the northern territories, but his brother preferred warmer deserts and southwestern red rocks. 
Santa Claus eventually made his way through the Rocky Mountains and the Pacific northwest into Canada. He went searching for the legendary land bridge from Alaska to Asia, but at some point got distracted and ended up at the northern-most seaport on the Arctic Ocean. It is told that he joined a summer whaling expedition. We can only imagine how he made it from that ship to his home at the North Pole.
Santa Claus' brother original name is lost to time. He seems to have traveled through the southwest to California, as there are stories handed down from the villages surrounding the Spanish Missions, about a bearded, jolly man who enjoyed sitting in the shade of the largest local trees, giggling with the local kids. They say he had boundless energy and was believed to be the first one to introduce a team game that featured kicking a pig bladder ball into a net.
Old fishing villages in California, Mexico, and Central America, all have stories about a man who seemed to appear out of nowhere, bringing good luck to the fisherman. He knew where huge schools of fish gathered around hidden reefs and taught them how to catch thousands using the same nets he made for the kick-the-ball game.
This same man seems to have sailed around Cape Horn on a small ship in an attempt to learn about his ancestors in Europe. We don’t know if he ever made it, but there is a folk tale on the island of Aruba about a man fitting the description of Santa's brother. They speak of this man splashing in the surf, entertaining families around nightly bonfires on the beaches with songs and stories of travel and adventures. He even learned their native language, Papiamento. 
The people gave him a local name, XOQ (pronounced Zok). He was lovingly referred to by young and old as Uncle XOQ; an easy to talk to, somewhat eccentric, ageless character. They don’t know where he came from, and they don’t know where he went. It all seems so familiar. (Research reveals that in Papiamento, the word XOQ means "crossing over.") 
This unusual man must certainly be Santa Claus' brother. The brothers longevity is attributed to their childhood spent in the waters of the Fountain of Youth. The sons of Santa Maria and Kachada still spread joy, hope, faith, compassion, and many other gifts. It is always delivered with a hardy HO! HO! HO!
*This “Santa family story” is new and recently written by Robby Hoffman's in Carlsbad, CA. It has never appeared anywhere before.   Copyright 2012.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

The Wizard of Oz

After Toto pulls back the curtain, the challenge for the grey haired Professor is to come up with solutions from his bag of tricks. A ticking clock represents a heart for the Tin Man, a diploma for the Straw Man's brain power, and a Medal of Honor to reward the Lion for his courage; all symbolic catalysts of transformation for Dorothy's crew.

As for the farm girl herself, one seemingly final disappoint rises above Emerald City's town square, as the fast talking Carnival Barker rises alone in his hot air balloon towards Kansas. It ultimately takes a trifecta of  realization, the magic red shoes, a wave of the wand from the Good Witch, and a simple repetitive mantra, to awaken Dorothy to the safety of her family and friends.

An awareness of the power of positive thinking has permeated American culture during the the past 20 years. Oprah's wealth, and Norman Vincent Peale notoriety, are all attributable to their invocation of age old principles. Simply stir into your life 3 magic ingredients; a passion for your goal, the recognition that thousands of average people have accomplished great things, and the determination to push through all road blocks never taking no for an answer, and success can be yours.

There is one other critical factor necessary to achieve and maintain momentum while staying the course. In sailing it is a steady wind, for without a breeze at your back no mastery of navigation will get you to the distant shore. In individual Olympic sports, personal coaches behind the scenes guide athletes through obstacles of fatigue, injury, nutrition, and years of repetitive workouts.

For the average person, few of us are fortunate enough to have a designated "driver" through the maze and obstacles of insecurities, lack of funds, education gaps, and/or road blocks of the mind, body, and spirit. Wouldn't it be grand if everybody had a Wizard, frantically turning the dials on a magic control panel, always there with a thought, a push, an idea, and a kind/free spirit.

Zoey and I are introducing Uncle XOQ to the world in 2012 as an approachable, lovable, off beat, wise Wizard who will offer up guidance, direction, and creative course corrections for kids of all ages. And he'll do it with a magical twinkle in his eye.

Stay Tuned!  

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Uncle XOQ

Uncle XOQ (pronounced Zok) is the fun, wise, off beat, approachable Uncle we all wish we had when we were kids.

Coming soon, just in time for the 2012 Holiday season and Autumn/Winter Birthdays, Uncle XOQ, in paperback and ebook will be on sale this year.

Zoey Stevens has started the illustrations for this first in a series of "Uncle XOQ" kids' books. Zoey's magical skills are putting a face to Uncle XOQ, his nephew, and the kids and adults in their world.

The "truth" of Uncle XOQ is his ability to make sense of the confusing challenges faced by all of us. Uncle XOQ dishes out his unique observations to his favorite nephew; a young teenager trying to find his voice and his identity.

With his off beat sense of humor, and a mind filled with quotes and sayings based on his interesting life experiences, Uncle XOQ is always available with answers, motivation, and clever ideas about how to get unstuck.

Giving this new book as a gift to kids of all ages, will be another beginning; a new way for you to connect with family and friends.

Keep an eye out for more insights into the Uncle XOQ story.

Uncle XOQ by Robby Hoffman
Illustrated by Zoey Stevens





Tuesday, February 21, 2012

See Beneath

February 19, 2012 ..... Carlsbad, CA

If you are reading this in the future, I trust the feeling of pride this Dad has for his son in this moment still radiates from this page. Three weeks into his Kickstarter campaign for Aiko & Egor, Casey and his team have $10,745 committed to their project. The "Assembly of Backers" includes family, friends, school-mates, autism professionals, and parents of the children who will directly benefit from the products See Beneath, Inc. will produce. These are all people Casey has touched, directly or indirectly, from as far back as 1986. They have taken the time to help make the goal of $12,000 attainable (or is it obtainable?).

I can't help but reflect on Casey's path to this moment, remembering each step of the journey and the decisions made about which college, what major, work study jobs, internship, first job out of university, and meeting Gerin and Jim to begin creating Aiko and Egor.

My philosophy can be distilled down to this: there are no mistakes in life if you learn from your experiences. I always tell Casey that each decision should be made with eyes wide open. Analyze the pluses and minuses, be intentional about considering your options, then choose with confidence in the moment knowing that the road ahead leads to valuable experiences, lessons, and ultimately more decisions built on a new collection of wisdom.

In the light of keeping this post simple and to the point, I'll end by sharing a moment on the sidewalk in front of my sister's home on Francisco St. in Berkeley: Casey on the right and Leland on the left. Taken during a visit with Frankie; James' wife and the mother of Leland. I met them while volunteering for the MS Society in the Bay Area. James eventually passed away from complications of MS and to thank me for my service, Frankie gave me one of my most treasured possessions: a full sized hour glass (see photo). The sands of time continue to flow and we all are simply a tiny grain on the surface of a beautiful planet.



Friday, January 27, 2012

Aiko & Egor

See Beneath, Inc. is a start-up non-profit company dedicated to producing educational tools for young autistic kids. It is the inspiration of three creative people: Casey Hoffman, Gerin Gaskin, and Jim Turner. Casey and Gerin are early childhood Interventionists and Jim is an artist. They saw a need and they went for it.

I admire them. I support them. I believe in them. I am going to put my money behind them by giving generously to their Kickstarter Project. I am requesting that you GIVE what you can afford.

Raising funds to offset the costs of producing their first DVD and to continue producing more episodes in the Aiko & Egor animated series is a big challenge. Casey and Gerin have spent 3 years, countless hours a week, sitting across from 2-3 year old kids with different degrees of attention deficits. As you can imagine, this work requires incredible patience and specific skills.

After full days of driving all over San Diego County to these kid's homes, interacting with frustrated parents, and making tiny, incremental progress at connecting with these toddlers, Casey and Gerin have also spent a year and a half of their evenings and weekends with a team of writers and animators producing the Pilot Episode of Aiko & Egor.

When you watch their first video, remember the simple goals of the creators: to grab and hold the attention of a young child with Autism and to maintain that connection while teaching core skills. Stop, look and listen is natural for a normal child; but not for kids with complicated attention deficit disorders.

Their research is supporting their work. The kids are mesmerized by "Aiko & Egor" and their undersea friends. The lessons are being communicated. It is the beginning of a series of DVD's that families can watch together while Mom and Dad, and brother and sister, can be part of a transformation.

Many of us have learned the importance of "see-ing beneath" the surface of human situations to uncover solutions. The name of Casey, Gerin, and Jim's new non-profit corporation clearly states the truth about their intention. They know that behind the veil of autism syndrome is a child waiting to be discovered.

Please help them help Autistic kids and their parents. Thanks!

Click here to Go To Kickstarter and PLEDGE your support.

Thank you so much for helping autistic kids and their families.




Wednesday, January 18, 2012

You Make Me Want to Be a Better Man*

As the football season reaches its climax, the political season is in full form. Jud forwarded this information about Thomas Jefferson and it once again proves the point about humans. We have forgotten more than we have learned.  


Thomas Jefferson was a very remarkable man. At 9, he studied Latin, Greek and French. At 16, he entered the College of William and Mary. At 19, he began his Law studies. At 23, he started his own law practice. At 25, he was elected to the Virginia House. At 32, he was a Delegate to the Second Continental Congress. 

At 33, he wrote the Declaration of Independence. At 33, he began revising Virginia's legal code and wrote a Public Education bill and a statute for Religious Freedom. At 36, he was elected the second Governor of Virginia At 40, he was elected to Congress. At 41, as the American minister to France, he negotiated commercial treaties with European nations along with Ben Franklin and John Adams. At 46, he served as the first Secretary of State under George Washington. At 53, he served as Vice President. At 55, he became the active head of Republican Party. 

At 57, he was elected the 3rd President of the United States. 

At 60, he orchestrated the Louisiana Purchase doubling the nation's size. At 61, he was elected to a second term as President. At 65, he retired to Monticello. At 80, he helped President Monroe shape the Monroe Doctrine. At 81, he created the University of Virginia and served as its first president. At 83, he died on the 50th anniversary of the Signing of the Declaration of Independence. 

Thomas Jefferson understood history and the nature of man. He is a voice from the past with a wake up call.

Read through these quotes from Thomas Jefferson and marvel and shiver at the truth:

"When we get piled upon one another in large cities, as in Europe, we shall become as corrupt as Europe."

"It is incumbent on every generation to pay its own debts as it goes. A principle which if acted on would save one-half the wars of the world."

"My reading of history convinces me that most bad government results from too much government."

"The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants."

"To compel a man to subsidize with his taxes the propagation of ideas which he disbelieves and abhors is sinful and tyrannical."

"I believe that banking institutions are more dangerous to our liberties than standing armies. If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around the banks will deprive the people of all property - until their children wake-up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered."

In the early 1960's, John F. Kennedy held a dinner in the White House for a group of the brightest minds in the nation at. JFK made this statement: 

"This is perhaps the assembly of the most intelligence ever to gather at one time in the White House with the exception of when Thomas Jefferson dined alone."

*"You make me want to be a better man."  As Good as it Gets, 1997, James Brooks